Stress and trauma are physiological phenomena that also affect our psyche. As such, we've got to get our bodies involved if we wish to liberate ourselves from the degenerative - and often debilitating - symptoms of these conditions.
As a product of generational trauma, I suffered from PTSD for years. For the first few decades of my life, my nervous system rarely knew what it was like to feel safe and easeful. I was always bracing myself for the next tornado to come ripping through my family, leaving me as a child to pick up the pieces.
As traumatic memories of the night before haunted me, I'd prepare myself for school while searching for some soothing words to offer my brother. I'd plant wild ideas in our minds about one day being free from the madness and using our experiences to end the cycles of trauma that we, our parents, their parents, and millions more like us had endured.
We have come a long way in science and technology. Mind-body therapies are more sophisticated than ever. But there's one common mistake that keeps repeating itself in these fields: we overlook "the space between."
The innate and instinctual aspects of our natural human design hold the keys to cures and healing. I know, because I am living proof.
I studied Anatomy & Physiology in college, and I remember cutting away and discarding connective tissue called "fascia" during dissections to get to the more solid matter of bones, muscles, and organs. Fascia has been a part of our natural human design since the beginning of time, but it is just now being recognized as a fundamental aspect of biomechanics, having intelligent sensory functions, and as an inherent instrument for healing the body and psyche. And there we were, in the early 2000's, just throwing it away in the science labs like it was nothing.
Our every gesture, posture, and movement are governed by our thoughts, emotions, and nervous system. When we move, our fascia moves - bending, curving, protecting, and supporting us in every single moment. Our fascia literally holds the stories of our lives, and yet we used to immediately discard it - as if it were just some useless space between things.
The stories of our lives are simultaneously contained within our physiological behaviors, our neural pathways, and the state of our nervous system. We feel these stories as stiffness, heaviness, anxiety, depression, aches, pains, tension, constricted breath, lethargy, etc.
These stories are held at the level of our "felt sense." This sense is our inner reality, the way we actually feel in our body and psyche in a given moment.
The felt sense is the space between things. It is the truest experience of ourselves - but it is overlooked as we remain fixated on our to-do list, the things we need to acquire, and the people we hope to please. In the space between these objects of fixation, our bodies and psyches are always working to support us. So why do we experience stress and trauma?
These conditions are the results of ignoring the space between - of ignoring our innate and instinctual aspects, of cutting them out of awareness and discarding them from our attention. This is fragmented living, and it is keeping stress and trauma intact in our lives.
After years of talk therapy, I realized something: I could not heal PTSD without changing the behaviors of my physiology, neurons, and nervous system. I had to literally move my body in new ways in order for my psyche to have a new experience. I had to free my fascia from the felt sense of being stuck in an unsafe situation.
As I worked at the level of my body, everything began to shift. I have found that what worked for me in traumatic healing is also very useful to those suffering from chronic or recurring stress. That's because I am using techniques that have been shown to be clinically effective by the world's leading experts in body-centered psychotherapy.
Now, I am inviting you to shift stress and trauma, by building a relationship with the space between.
In my upcoming Self-Study Series, you will do just that. Click here to learn more, and watch the video below for a personally vulnerable and informative chat about stress, trauma, and healing.
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